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By: mick

mick — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 00:41:15 +0000

No one does what you did lightly. I would think it was a difficult call to make but you did assess it and not just react, so i believe its praiseworthy.
If someone has problem tell them to ask Elizabeth Smart what she thinks about people who just dont want to get involved.
if a private citizen is legitimately concerned and gives a fair assessment to PROFESSIONALS so be it. They are the ones who make decision. You have no qualifications to make the decision but the people you justifiably contatcted did and that the right way to do it.
as a teacher i was a mandated reporter & would be part of the crime if my kids beat up and i dont check it out. I had kids taken out of their homes, ive sent kids to jail for mugging their school mates. Working as a teacher I have been shot at (well more like “shot towards’ but its no fucking fun trust me).
Im pretty damn qualified to say this-
you did the right thing, better safe then sorry w/ children.

By: Steven

Steven — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 23:22:39 +0000

Corinna, i do not know you long. But i do know Mental Health issues, as i have suffered all my life. I also know a Bully or Bullies when I see & read them. You made a difficult decision., one that no one would like to make and if they did they would always question if it was right or wrong. And to what I see as Online Bullies, yes you the people who have to make comments on Corinna’s health & medications. If you really wanted to cut ties and grow you too would stop reading her blog, and following her or reacting to her comments. But no, that would be the adult thing to do. No Bullies like a foe, it gives them power, a feeling that justifies their own anger and pain. A scape goat for their guilt and maybe shame.
Oh and being a working writer does not make you healthy or a good parent, exhibit A) Hunter S. Thompson, exhibit 2) William S Burroughs. Bullies will hide behind their insecurites and surround themselves with people who will follow their shallow little lives.
I do not know Corinna well. But I can see when someone who is open about her illness, is suffering and needing to speak her mind. Kudos for you Corinna for it is far braver to face the effects of a tough decision knowing what that choice could bring to your life than in action.
In my years of journalism I have seen this many times, way too many times. To the mother, i do hope all is well, but it does not take a mother to know or care for a child. The act of child birth alone does not give anyone any special powers of parenthood. I know because I am adopted and was raised by wonderful loving parents.
I pray that none of you ever have to make a decision like the one Corinna made, ever. Before you bash just think hard and long about that. What if it was you? silence for peace or a voice for a child, regardless of what that means to your emotional well being. I will always pick the child, and I am not a mother.
So to the bullies, leave it alone, do not read her posts, stop making comments about her illness of which she had no choice in making.
In closing i heard people say it has been 18 months move on, well OK how many of you still hate a girl or guy from HS, or a uncle, aunt, mother, father, for hurting and not supporting you?
Life leads us in ways we can never predict, it puts decisions in front of us all the time. We make choices, sometimes they are very difficult and painful. Some time they hurt for years. We all heal at our own rate in our own ways and in our own time. Lets just start healing.

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By: maja

maja — Tue, 13 Jan 2009 14:03:33 +0000

I think it’s really brave to do something instead of nothing and the fact that you took so long to do it means that you didn’t take the decision lightly. I understand why you’re blogging about it, too.

By: C.J 'collapse in a heap and put the heating on' Hixon

C.J 'collapse in a heap and put the heating on' Hixon — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 12:53:17 +0000

@Russel with one L, L is the first letter of the word Lady.
I read your comment just now and seriously I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.

@Mandy, Miss, Red Lotus Mama, Maria, Terra: … Ladies seriously where’s my reply? Don’t tell me I got that 50 Gallon Drum of KY for nothing! Let’s wrestle!

By: Shawnte

Shawnte — Sat, 10 Jan 2009 00:07:25 +0000

I can only imagine the struggle you went through before making that call, but ultimately you made the right decision, because if there is even a shred of doubt for the welfare of the child then it is the right thing to do to make that call. The services are there to evaluate the situation and make the final judgement. Knowing that this woman was a friend and someone dear to you made it that much harder, for fear of “betraying” her, but give it time, and she will see the light.

As for posting this, hats off to you! Maybe for some people they can move on from such a difficult situation, but I appreciate the fact that you are posting about it because it is something important and real to you. It has affected you deeply. And if anyone thinks that you may have posted just to get sympathy, then they just need to read the above comments.

Hugs to you and Adam!

By: Ben

Ben — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 15:57:57 +0000

Child abuse is one thing I simply do not stand for, period.

I once witnessed a woman on BART yelling at her kid who was unruly at the time which caught my attention. A few moments later she slapped the kid with a hard back hand… I should have called the authorities but before I knew it had even happened, I had threatened her face-to-face two inches away from each other.

It solved the problem for the moment, but it wasn’t the right call; I should have reported her instead.

I support your decision 100%.

Ben