the ring - uncut and uncensored
for about a year and a half i annoyed the shit out of adam because almost everyday at around 4:20pm i would change my mind about whether or not i wanted an engagement ring. poor boy was so confused.
one reason i didn�t want one is because i know i want just a plain old wedding band. no frills no gimmicks. after the wedding the engagement ring would only collect dust. it is simply too small for gus�s wee paw.
but then i did really want one because i have a girly side and i figured wearing one piece of jewellery couldn�t be that bad.
and then i didn’t want one because we are not millionaires and only an exact replica of paris hilton’s - now being used as a paper weight - engagement ring would do.
inevitably, i did want one because they look hot and it would all feel more real and people would stop staring at my ninja belt buckle already. move on people i�ve had it for months the ring is where it�s at now.
we strolled last sunday, strolled up and down the streets. all the streets. not hand in hand. i do not do hand holding i think it�s lame, adam thinks it�s soooooooo christian. we strolled into diamond store after diamond store. from department store diamonds to diamond stores with pushy bitchy ladies who bite your head off over i guess what they figure to be dumb questions like: what�s that one cost? to diamond stores with verandas and champagna where rich people bring their old dying dogs to bite your hands and give you rabies. fuck i wanted to kick that damn dog.
i tried on ring after ring, dollar value between 349.00 to 6,000. but they were all lame and i hated them and none felt right not even the really expensive ones and i didn’t want any of their crap champagna anyways.
i discovered how unnecessary of a thing diamonds are to me at this age. i had already said previously but it came to be completely true during sunday�s mission that there are a fuck lot of things i�d rather buy with our money before buying a diamond. after we�ve been married for 15 or 20 years then buy me a diamond or diamonds.
eventually i put on the ring you see below.
it is a CZ.
a.k.a: a cubic zirconia
a.k.a: a fake
it felt right immediately, it was the coolest one we found all day i totally fell in mad hatter love with it and had to have it immediately. it is hot i love it. it cost less than half of the cheapest diamond ring i tried on. and no one is the wiser except now you… you, and you and some other people on the internet.
our stroll REALLY got us thinking - there MUST be guys out there that propose with totally fake ass rings and the poor girls never ever know.
October 13th, 2005 at 11:45 am
well, I really like the “fake” ring. I don’t see anything wrong with the CZ, I would however want to know if that’s what I was getting beforehand tho. Could you imagine if you got one and wanted to go have it appraised or something and found out that way? That would totally suck! I am currently awaiting my diamond, cz, crackerjack, whatever ring…we’ll see when it happens. I don’t mind getting a ring, my thing is, why do girls have to advertise that we’re off the market when we’re engaged but boys don’t? When I get engaged I’m gonna make my fiance wear an engagement collar….he he
October 13th, 2005 at 11:55 am
I’m completely with you on this! We couldn’t afford a diamond either and we made due with our plain gold bands. I got the itch for somehting sparkling about two years ago. We’d just sold our house and had a wee wad of cash and i had my ring turned into my dream ring. However we still couldn’t splash for a diamond, so I got a white sapphire, and no one would know…uless I told them like I just did. Ah well.
If it makes you happy, who the fuck cares!
October 13th, 2005 at 2:05 pm
I think your fake ass CZ ring is ultra cool and do you know why? Because love sure as hell aint about diamonds. Instead it’s about not wanting one. wanting one. not wanting one and getting a cook fake one that you both love. Yeah! I could not give a flying f about diamonds. I only wear fake shit and I like it that way.
October 13th, 2005 at 3:45 pm
i got a candy coated helicopter with a leather cover……
bling bling……
B G always knows what to say. like hallmark.
October 13th, 2005 at 4:04 pm
You did the right thing old girl…you know the history behind diamonds and what goes on in Africa to the village folks. I couldn’t buy a diamond now if I tried…I’d always be thinking of the kids arms that get hacked off to keep their parents working in the mines…and so on. Z looks great!
October 13th, 2005 at 5:24 pm
Hey, I totally agree with you about the diamond thing. My friend Windy and I were discussing the diamond ring thing last week and we both want to have rings with aquamarine rather than diamond.
I’ve seen literally hundreds of carats of diamonds at work (it being a diamond mine and all) and I love the things, but when they’re cut and in a ring, they don’t seem so special… I’d rather grab a huge handful of rough stones and pour them over my head and throw them around for fun. It seems like such a waste to spend thousands of dollars on a tiny thing like a ring anyway.
And hey, why are diamonds so damn special when cubic zirconias will sparkle just as much?
Oh, and one more thing.. I’ll let you in on a little-known secret: [i]diamonds aren’t really forever[/i] shocking I know, but it’s the truth.
congrats on finding such a cool ring! and being engaged and all that
October 13th, 2005 at 5:33 pm
nice bloghere!keep it up!
October 14th, 2005 at 3:36 am
now I know diamonds arent that important Im definately got look into one of these CZ things. Excellent. Thank you
October 14th, 2005 at 8:28 am
If I ever get engaged I’m going to buy my fiance a CZ ring. Daimonds are too expensive.
October 14th, 2005 at 9:01 am
that’s awesome! good for you. that ring looks just beautiful. i’m glad that adam respects what you want too. if i ever get engaged i’d like a garnet…no diamonds for this chica.
October 14th, 2005 at 9:52 am
You gotta remember the LOOOVE. Is there love? Then you don’t need two rings. Well, if its pretty… but anway, your choice
October 14th, 2005 at 9:53 am
Oh you have one, my bad
October 14th, 2005 at 10:41 am
guaranteed there are people getting fake rings and not knowing it….!!!! nice post!
October 14th, 2005 at 10:54 am
stating that the girls are poor kinda contradicts your whole “diamonds aren’t important” theory. Anyways, it’s the band that truely needs to be high quality.
October 14th, 2005 at 11:06 am
clay, i was not using the word poor in that sentance to mean ‘having little money’ i meant it as poor ‘deserving sympathy’ because she THINKS she has a real ring and DOESN’T.
i picked mine. i know it isn’t real. had i of wanted a real one, i would of gotten one.
October 14th, 2005 at 11:10 am
that is exactly what this post was about the fact that i didn’t want two expensive rings.
we had ‘planned’ on getting married about a year and a half before he even asked me so the ring was totally inconsequential.
October 14th, 2005 at 12:52 pm
I bought my wife a $16 CZ and it’s prettier than her engagement ring!
October 14th, 2005 at 6:32 pm
it’s gorgeous. they’ve come a long way with CZs some of them are SO fucking good that you can only tell with a jeweler’s lupe.
and fuck people that need real diamonds. i’m all about just a band too. i don’t want it snagging on crap and pulling strings on my sweaters.. not that i wear sweaters, but you get my point.
what’s a shame about the CZ thing is that those dudes girls are too fucking snobby to accept that the dude can’t afford a fucking $1,000 ring.
i agree with you, do it on your 20th anniversary as a “OH MY GOD WE’VE BEEN TOGETHER THIS LONG” reminder.
October 14th, 2005 at 7:19 pm
Sorry, but it’s not the rock, it’s the art. You have to wear it, so it doesn’t matter what the numbers on the tag say! If you love it, love it well!
October 15th, 2005 at 6:30 am
Awesome ring, and I think it’s fab that it’s CZ. It’s all about the “feels right.”
October 15th, 2005 at 6:46 am
understood
October 15th, 2005 at 8:20 am
a stunning piece of trivia:
if every diamond that has been mined were to be availible on the market, they would be nearly worthless as they are so common. gems like zircon would out value the diamonds. so, in theory, your ring is more valuable than an equally sized diamond. and you don’t have to pay for insurance on the damn thing.
October 15th, 2005 at 10:02 am
go with what feels right. its a lovely ring.
October 15th, 2005 at 12:11 pm
I’ve had that same dilemma, not that anyone is proposing to me anytime soon…. but why spend all the $$?
October 15th, 2005 at 1:38 pm
That is so awesome - the ring is so cool looking, and who cares if it’s a diamond or not - it is a symbol, and it is what you make it.
Kickass.
October 16th, 2005 at 3:46 am
I love the idea of CZ. It is not the ring, it about the love behind the ring. I think too much is made out of rings and weddings and not enough out of the marriage.
October 16th, 2005 at 6:18 am
You could wear the engagement ring on a chain around your neck. For some reason, that appeals to me.
My wife’s engagement ring became part of her wedding ring, quite pretty, actually.
October 16th, 2005 at 7:58 am
you always struck me as a CZ girl, and i don’t mean that you are cheap or can’t tell the differenc, but that you are cool enough and secure enough to be comfortable with it…another testament to your unfailing coolness, truly….
October 16th, 2005 at 9:14 am
i always thought a ring was a ring whatever the stone. you are hot whatever you slide on your finger.
October 18th, 2005 at 11:33 am
Doesn’t change it’s beauty one bit. It’s very classy, I love it. Is there a date set yet?
October 25th, 2005 at 1:43 pm
Congratulations (i’m behind on your posts
i seriously love the ring you selected. love the shape.