This is kind of bizarre but even though I am a left handed Gemini only child I never noticed or admitted out loud that growing up I may have been sort of spoiled- not until I got married.
I was always very first date specific. I KNEW I wanted a man who COOKED, was athletic in general and played GOLF because I am not good enough at golf nor do I have enough patience to teach someone to play golf. I also wanted a man who Votes. Adam won’t vote his defiant side won’t allow it, but I still decided he was the ONE he had all three other specifics in the BAG and obviously my list was not very deep except for the cooking part.
I lived off a combination of switching back and forth between spaghetti and KD when I was single. Lunches I’d normally eat two burgers somewhere and breakfast I ate sometimes. Almost everyone I used to work with was jealous and probably thought it was disgusting as well that I could eat two burgers and hold them down and not gain any weight or they mentioned it enough that I had some choice inner monologues going on. It wasn’t my fault. [plus I can not do that anymore ‘for free’ I get a wee burger belly as I call it, and I rub it.]
My Dad BUGS me because I still do not COOK I do most of the grocery shopping but I do not cook dinners. A housewife who doesn’t cook dinners I KNOW the travesty the world is coming to an end. It does piss me off when my Dad bugs me about it because I then allow myself to feel guilty because I have no desire to cook dinners and Adam has NEVER said he minds. PLUS I make his lunch. BUT this was also when I realized I was more spoiled as a kid than I thought I was. Making his lunch is challenging for me. He has had to show me how to make TUNA sandwiches; he has EVEN had to show me how to slice into the margarine like a million times till it gets soft so it doesn’t break the bread. My Mom always made my lunch for school and when she stopped I went home for lunch and had KD.
I have always said that compared to A LOT of other only children I was not spoiled because in other and much more important ways and areas I have it together big time but compared to people with brothers and sisters of course I was and I’d be a moron to argue otherwise.
Being a new wife is different than I thought it would be. I really didn’t think anything would change after living together for almost three years prior but now I find myself wanting to do a lot of things I never did when we were just living together, other than cook dinners but I feel like a spoiled little brat having to have Adam teach me the basics of something like sandwich making- it makes me wonder how I lived alone for so long before I got serious with Adam and got married.
