Comments on: Anxiety doesn’t care if you’ve already paid – No go for NV08 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710 Vancouver Blogger since 2005, married with grey cat. Wed, 03 Dec 2008 22:11:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: capegirl http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5576 capegirl Mon, 03 Mar 2008 00:14:27 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5576 at some point your self-esteem and your desires will be in line...i promise you it'll happen..then: WATCH OUT! it's going to be a LOT of fun! :) at some point your self-esteem and your desires will be in line…i promise you it’ll happen..then: WATCH OUT! it’s going to be a LOT of fun! :)

]]> By: Roxanne http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5536 Roxanne Fri, 29 Feb 2008 15:19:28 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5536 I have similar issues with anxiety. I'm slowly learning that you tell yourself 88 things to get yourself worked up so just saying "Ok, this will pass, just breathe," well, it isn't enough. You have to tell yourself it will pass 89 times to undo the damage that you've already done with your negative self talk. (Can you tell I have a workbook?) Anyway, it's a process. The fact that you are sitting back after the fact and trying to figure out what went wrong is the path to healing. I've missed many cool opportunities in my life because of anxiety. It always boils down to fear for me. Fear of having fun I'm not convinced I deserve to have, fear of letting go, fear or losing control. The times I've tiptoed past that fear, I've treasured more than anything else because it's those little tiptoe-y steps past it that make me feel like someday, I will put on my hikers and stomp right on past the fear. Don't beat yourself up about it. Part of getting through anxiety is being kind to yourself and giving yourself permission to make the choices that are right for you. I have similar issues with anxiety. I’m slowly learning that you tell yourself 88 things to get yourself worked up so just saying “Ok, this will pass, just breathe,” well, it isn’t enough. You have to tell yourself it will pass 89 times to undo the damage that you’ve already done with your negative self talk. (Can you tell I have a workbook?)

Anyway, it’s a process. The fact that you are sitting back after the fact and trying to figure out what went wrong is the path to healing. I’ve missed many cool opportunities in my life because of anxiety. It always boils down to fear for me. Fear of having fun I’m not convinced I deserve to have, fear of letting go, fear or losing control. The times I’ve tiptoed past that fear, I’ve treasured more than anything else because it’s those little tiptoe-y steps past it that make me feel like someday, I will put on my hikers and stomp right on past the fear.

Don’t beat yourself up about it. Part of getting through anxiety is being kind to yourself and giving yourself permission to make the choices that are right for you.

]]> By: maja http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5529 maja Fri, 29 Feb 2008 09:40:55 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5529 You've never disappointed me xoxoxx You’ve never disappointed me xoxoxx

]]> By: capegirl http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5520 capegirl Thu, 28 Feb 2008 17:12:25 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5520 it's just going to get better and better Corinna. it doesn't matter if you don't get it all right exactly when you expect or want to. :) that's what second chances are for :) it’s just going to get better and better Corinna. it doesn’t matter if you don’t get it all right exactly when you expect or want to. :) that’s what second chances are for :)

]]> By: Pete Quily http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5518 Pete Quily Thu, 28 Feb 2008 01:15:39 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5518 There are a lot of introverts/ shy people/ people with social anxiety who are bloggers, it's often easier for them to communicate online than in person. I met a fair number of them at NVoice's over the years and at other Vancouver area blogging/tech meeting. So just letting you know you're not the only one and there are many others out there as well. Going at you own pace is the smart thing to do. There are a lot of introverts/ shy people/ people with social anxiety who are bloggers, it’s often easier for them to communicate online than in person. I met a fair number of them at NVoice’s over the years and at other Vancouver area blogging/tech meeting.

So just letting you know you’re not the only one and there are many others out there as well.

Going at you own pace is the smart thing to do.

]]> By: Captain C.J Hixon & the Masked Porky Wonder http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5516 Captain C.J Hixon & the Masked Porky Wonder Wed, 27 Feb 2008 23:13:01 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5516 It's your fault Bert wants to play Ninjas @ 22:52 on a Wednesday night. HHHHAAAAAAAAAAIIIIIIIIII YYAAAAA!! KEEYAI KEEYAI!!! Social anxiety mate? No problem, Take one Ninja Bassett add a dash of cheesy 80's pop (The Sea Bass is off but The Wham with 'Club Tropicana' is on the menu tonight instead) plus a wiggle of the hips is the hot tip to sucess in this area. If attending a gathering just take along the above ingredience and Huzzah! the terror of social anxiety is gone... Whatever, you know I think you're always working towards any kind of improvement in this matter for ALL the right reasons and the respect that commands from me is 110% more than I give most people just for you having the balls (not literally) to admit even a bit of this kind of stuff. And (I think it's well over due cos I've never said this for the blog before... I don't think) a big loving thank you (from P.Bfor being the most also) for beingone of the most honest and caring pepole. Your blog is tops eh? Oi! nv10? me, you, Alburn Buttless Chaps & Gus? Wadda ya say? Sounds good? I could make semi colonial slurrs and people would let me off cos I'm foriegn and don't know any better? sounds like a hoot to me. Whatever. Miss ya loads. xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo C.J & Super(Ninja)Bert AWAAAAYYYYY!!!!!!! P.S someone says Woof! (and a fart but I don't think that was intended for you, mine I think!) xo It’s your fault Bert wants to play Ninjas @ 22:52 on a Wednesday night.

HHHHAAAAAAAAAAIIIIIIIIII YYAAAAA!! KEEYAI KEEYAI!!!

Social anxiety mate? No problem, Take one Ninja Bassett add a dash of cheesy 80’s pop (The Sea Bass is off but The Wham with ‘Club Tropicana’ is on the menu tonight instead) plus a wiggle of the hips is the hot tip to sucess in this area.

If attending a gathering just take along the above ingredience and Huzzah! the terror of social anxiety is gone…

Whatever, you know I think you’re always working towards any kind of improvement in this matter for ALL the right reasons and the respect that commands from me is 110% more than I give most people just for you having the balls (not literally) to admit even a bit of this kind of stuff. And (I think it’s well over due cos I’ve never said this for the blog before… I don’t think) a big loving thank you (from P.Bfor being the most also) for beingone of the most honest and caring pepole. Your blog is tops eh?

Oi! nv10? me, you, Alburn Buttless Chaps & Gus? Wadda ya say? Sounds good? I could make semi colonial slurrs and people would let me off cos I’m foriegn and don’t know any better? sounds like a hoot to me.

Whatever.
Miss ya loads.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

C.J & Super(Ninja)Bert AWAAAAYYYYY!!!!!!!

P.S someone says Woof! (and a fart but I don’t think that was intended for you, mine I think!)
xo

]]> By: Jeffrey Keefer http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5515 Jeffrey Keefer Wed, 27 Feb 2008 17:13:10 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5515 I can really relate with this, and appreciate your sharing. Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed, I have the sense that I am the only one having that experience. I found your reflection and admitting to this condition very brave and therapeutic, and it seems the comments here are reflecting that. I did attend nv08 as well as nv07, and wish we would have met. For me, knowing that others also feel paralyzed somehow makes it seem better. Not in the misery-loves-company light, but rather that others struggle and overcome and share and have ups-and-downs, and that may just be a part of the human condition. I wonder what affect social media has made on this, in that it is easier to speak about this here (not that this is anonymous, as it surely is not), but that writing (which helps me think) is different than looking others in the eye and speaking. I can really relate with this, and appreciate your sharing. Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed, I have the sense that I am the only one having that experience. I found your reflection and admitting to this condition very brave and therapeutic, and it seems the comments here are reflecting that.

I did attend nv08 as well as nv07, and wish we would have met. For me, knowing that others also feel paralyzed somehow makes it seem better. Not in the misery-loves-company light, but rather that others struggle and overcome and share and have ups-and-downs, and that may just be a part of the human condition.

I wonder what affect social media has made on this, in that it is easier to speak about this here (not that this is anonymous, as it surely is not), but that writing (which helps me think) is different than looking others in the eye and speaking.

]]> By: Dan http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5514 Dan Wed, 27 Feb 2008 16:00:29 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5514 You are awesome! Do whatever You want with your blog and it will be awesome too, it's a simple formula! :) Will be seeing you again :) You are awesome!
Do whatever You want with your blog and it will be awesome too, it’s a simple formula! :)

Will be seeing you again :)

]]> By: Raul http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5510 Raul Wed, 27 Feb 2008 06:56:15 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5510 Dear Corinna, I learned you weren't coming to NV 08 at the VBM, but I just wanted to send you a big hug of support. I look forward to spending time with you and getting to know you as well, outside of the bowling alley too :D And if you ever need to talk, let me know :) Hugs from here. Raul Dear Corinna,

I learned you weren’t coming to NV 08 at the VBM, but I just wanted to send you a big hug of support. I look forward to spending time with you and getting to know you as well, outside of the bowling alley too :D

And if you ever need to talk, let me know :)

Hugs from here.
Raul

]]> By: Travis http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5509 Travis Wed, 27 Feb 2008 03:11:55 +0000 http://gusgreeper.com/archives/710#comment-5509 Hey G, With luck, Northern Voice will be happening next year, and the year after, and so on. And though people might try to tell you that *this* NV was the *best one ever*, I think next year's will be pretty good as well. Take your time, and when you're ready, we'll be happy to have you. TTFN Travis Hey G,

With luck, Northern Voice will be happening next year, and the year after, and so on. And though people might try to tell you that *this* NV was the *best one ever*, I think next year’s will be pretty good as well. Take your time, and when you’re ready, we’ll be happy to have you.

TTFN
Travis

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