Comments on: Some of life’s harder Pros and Cons

By: Ben

Ben — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 08:59:07 +0000

I too agree that you have a right to feel reason for loss little lady. That said, you haven’t changed much baby face. You take care of yourself young lady.

Cheers

By: Jenn

Jenn — Sun, 13 Apr 2008 07:19:30 +0000

I don’t know how anyone could criticize you for your feelings. I would be incredibly upset if I were you too. I find it hard enough living half way across the country from my parents and family. Adam will have to give you some extra loving =)

By: thefunkybee

thefunkybee — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:30:07 +0000

First of all, you have every single fucking right to feel loss for really all 3 things. Number one your parents are moving to ASIA!!! No matter how happy you are for them and what exciting, great news this is, it’s a fact and the whole situation is a loss for YOU. Number two, your best friend is moving away. Number three, you have decided not to have children.

No matter how these decisions were made and the pro’s and con’s to them all, they are all losses for you and you need to mourne them before you can accept them and see the positives.

Now, being on the “outside” I could totally point out a million pro’s to all of this, so when you’re ready or need that, let me know!!!

((((HUGS))) I think you need some of those so I’m sending you some virtual one’s…

By: Roxanne

Roxanne — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 19:04:23 +0000

Not to make this all about me, but I can totally relate to the whole expressing your feelings in an inappropriate way only to discover later what the underlying issue is. That’s called progress darling, and although you may not agree that it is, it is and good for you for realizing it! Loss of any sort is hard to deal with if you’ve never been given the tools to handle it. The part of your entry where you talked about leaving family east really resonated with me as my family did the same thing and I felt the same way.

It will be hard when they leave but keep talking about it and it will help the process. Big hugs to you!!

By: {illyria}

{illyria} — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 08:50:45 +0000

like michelle, i adore the photos. but i do have this to say: of course you’re upset! it’s completely natural–almost expected. they’re your family and having them move so far away will make you feel that there’s a deep, yawning chasm in your heart. for a long time after, perhaps, but grieving does end.

looking at this from the other side, it must be great for them to take such a big, exciting step. BALI! i mean, they’ll be so much closer to me, if you think about it.

p.s. i read back at Nocturnal’s site (before he closed it down) that you felt you lost me after i went private. that was so sweet. i’d like to thank you for that, and assure you that i am always here, just behind a password is all. xx.

By: Jacki

Jacki — Fri, 11 Apr 2008 02:32:42 +0000

You have every right to feel that way! When my sister moved 3000 killometers away I must have bitched about it for MONTHS and sometimes I still miss her so much that I’ll have a little cry.

But, to look on the positive side, I have a really beautiful place to visit when ever I can afford to go see her and so will you.

You won’t like it and you don’t have to like it, you just have to get used to it.

By: capegirl

capegirl — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 23:45:41 +0000

i love these pics with all my heart! i wish my parents would do something that great for themselves..to be honest. but if they did i would likely also feel a certain sense of grieving and loss, even though we do not have any sort of closeness in that sense. we are close in one sense but my big sis and i pretty much got booted from the nest emotionally quite young. (i’m not saying this was a good thing, just how it went) and yet in other ways the relationship was quite smothering.

“change is the only constant”..aristotle or someone clevair said. and it’s true and normal to go through a period of adjustment. soon you’ll be enjoying that holiday and i will be envious! all of this will be another way you’ve grown soon enough..soon enough

By: Spockette

Spockette — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 20:30:50 +0000

Dude! That’s some mad curls you were rockin there in your scout get-up!

By: Christopher

Christopher — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 11:59:24 +0000

My Mom lives in Cyprus and, although she comes back every now and then, I miss her and get upset everytime she goes back. I’ll never not need my parents because they mean more to me now than when I was little. It’s probably because we all ‘get’ each other now and the relationship has shifted to a nicer level.

Oh, and I never want kids. Ever.

My opinion of marriage has changed because people (you and Adam included) have made marriage seem cooler and better than I’d ever thought it could be. Plus, I’m properly knee deep in full-blown love now so holy matrimony is a more accessible option. But kids…nah. I’m happy being an Uncle.

By: maja

maja — Thu, 10 Apr 2008 11:44:54 +0000

It’s totally okay to miss your parents in my books. My parents went to live on Cocos Islands for a couple of years when I went to live in Iceland for a couple of years. I lived with my grandmother in Iceland and had heaps of extended family over there, but I totally missed my parents, and I realised while over there that I just wanted to live in the same country as my parents. I can totally understand how upsetting it is for your parents to move to another part of the world.

The vasectomy is such a great idea! Now that’s contraception.