Comments on: I accept it, doesn’t mean I like it.

By: Capegirl

Capegirl — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 11:13:47 +0000

And im sorry that these things happened to you.

By: Capegirl

Capegirl — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 10:46:27 +0000

A tree? Good facking lord! Dreadful. WordPress wouldnt accept my email so my comments bit the dust just know i am rooting for you

By: C.J 'collapse in a heap and put the heating on' Hixon

C.J 'collapse in a heap and put the heating on' Hixon — Thu, 29 Jan 2009 09:48:46 +0000

BTW: ‘Contains Mature Themes’ is the name of my folk band… or at least it is now.

By: sarah

sarah — Wed, 28 Jan 2009 01:53:12 +0000

true.. if you had a sibling, you would have someone else that KNEW exactly. i thank god for my sisters and have never regretted having siblings (nor childishly wished them away)

i cannot believe this is still going on and that he’s still such a @#$%)@#$&%.

(we never slept in our own tent) thankfully my parents save coitus for when we weren’t around. it’s called CLASS. ick.

By: Tawcan

Tawcan — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 22:13:57 +0000

Wow certainly not the type of camping trips you’d expect as a kid. Not exactly the best way to help your kids to appreciate nature and loving the whole camping in the outdoors experience. If my parents were raise me like that I’m sure I’d hated camping and outdoors.

Regarding Bee’s comment about some ppl shouldn’t be allowed to have kids. Absolutely! Then you have laws out there that prohibit same-sex couples adopting kids b/c that’s a “bad environment” to raise kids. Give me a freaking break!

By: Corinna

Corinna — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 20:57:56 +0000

@Barbara i agree with everything you wrote there + i respect you and your writing as well. i really held back in that post actually it is much worse, not the camping bit but the sexual side, and you know i totally accept that your sex life doesn’t end when you have kids parents do it in front of babies all the time, but no this is different and was blatant abuse. i also am not rehashing etc as you know i’d rather not of course write things about my parents that are THAT intimate, but i don’t know my relationship with my father ended the day he said Adam was going to leave me, and this isn’t payback but it opened up a whole new can of worms.

@Derek i know what you are saying about siblings for sure, because of how my father pitted my mother and i against one another.
i do know some pretty well adjusted an awesome only children. i do believe in a lot, not all, but a lot of the statistics surrounding only children and their mental growth, for example when you are treated as i feel an only child should be you are interacting with two people speaking as adults and therefore have a much stronger vocabulary and understanding of dialogue and such at a much younger age, it is some really interesting stuff.

@C.J. awh the brother i never had <3 you!!

@Bee in regards to people not meant to have children, that is actually a *funny* story too, my father claims that HE wanted me and had to talk my mother into having me and i guess it took him only seven years they married in 69 i was born in 77, whereas my mother’s sister claims that this is NOT true and that when i was born still at the hospital, the FIRST words out of HIS mouth where that HE was never going through “this shit” again. so yeah i’ve accepted over the years that i was very likely a mistake that neither wants to admit to, which honestly if they would just say yeah we fucked up we didn’t want kids, would honestly after i mourned it make me feel SO much better. my dad also ended up getting a vasectomy. in regards to your having two kids i love the way you wrote that, because i know that my parents honestly believe they did the best they could, although i strongly disagree that is their right to believe that, i know there is no manual but i personally had we have made the decision to have kids it was ALWAYS discussed that we’d have two until we decieded on none.

By: TheFunkyBee

TheFunkyBee — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 16:43:42 +0000

I don’t know your parents and obviously only know your side of things and from this I would assess that some people are not meant to have children. I mean, look, I know there’s no manual and we learn as we go and try to do the best we can but for fuck’s sake, it’s like you were a chore to them. There are right ways and wrong ways to do things and it appears they failed, except for the fact that I think you have made yourself into a wonderful person despite their shortcomings – I guess this would be your success, not theirs. And this post reconfirms to me that no matter what, I will not have just one child because no matter how badly I end up fucking my children up, I hope they can at least have another child/sibling/friend to relate to and bond with through the good and bad times.