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Pissed Off? Just a Little

Published on October 3, 2007 by Corinna Carlson | 0 Comments

A while back a fellow blogger did a post that mentioned the episode of Oprah where she discussed open marriages NOT the Mormon religion or polygamy and how it is depicted on HBO’s Big Love [that I am aware of because I didn't watch it] but ‘open marriage’ was a topic.

I myself am not down with open marriages I think most fail over time and if you or your spouse want to be fucking each other and other people I’d venture a guess there is something deeper happening there and that something pretty big is missing from the relationship but I’m not a shrink just observant and I don’t know I guess I just think ahead.

But my problem is not with ‘open marriages’ to each their own I don’t really care. My problem is I read the comments on this post and someone who can choose to identify themselves in the comments or ask to be linked back to or what have you basically set my blood on fire by writing:

“The true commitment in life is having children with another person.
The marriage is/can be an important precursor, but it is definately not bound by forever the way having children is”.

[I've intentionally left the spelling error and want to say here NOTHING has EVER pissed me off this bad in my almost three years of blogging that I now feel the need to do a whole post on it]

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? Why don’t you just say I’m not a fucking woman while you are at it because I have NEVER wanted kids and my husband doesn’t want children either? In fact I can’t stand most children and if you pay ANY attention to the census taken in this country you’ll know that THANKS to people like me our population is starting to settle out. I would MUCH rather have a form of population control in the country I live in based on EDUCATED decisions by people to or not to have babies, not assholes who can’t even afford them or some stupid slut who gets knocked up because she thinks it’ll be fun to have a baby but is seriously unfit to even have a child. I’m thankful I live in a country where there is a CHOICE, not in a third world or over populated country where war, AIDS and genocide which can result from war, or having to murder baby girls that are maybe not openly admitted to but ARE forms of population control. That comment is also more than disrespectful to women who can not have children, one of those being a very close friend of mine.

Our marriage is a ‘precursor’ to our life together a life that will include a shit load of SUPER cool adventures that people with kids just can’t go on or do without pissing their kids off they have to wait until their kids have moved out of the house and then *a lot* of marriages fall apart finding out you have nothing in common anymore anyway so you get divorced. Funny how that works.

I am SO sick of the comments the looks the EVERYTHING when people find out you’re married and not having kids. Whatever we get to sleep. I pity people who make ignorant comments like that to my face.

the Rio and a gripe

Published on August 10, 2007 by Corinna Carlson | 0 Comments


Photo credit: Keira on Flickr

Last night courtesy of Rebecca and the Rio Theatre, Keira and I got to enjoy a free midnight showing of Rush Hour 3. Except for the part where the three single obnoxious jerks sat down next to the three seemingly single ladies and preceded to make ‘noises’ every single time there was a woman on the screen, the movie was pretty much exactly what you would expect from a third installment, being that in reality you shouldn’t be expecting anything from a third installment of any movie.[I have one gripe about it that I will address likely in the next paragraph or two]. Fortunately the Rio’s very gracious and extremely friendly owner Mike gave us a behind the scenes tour before the box office opened because the man one seat down from me was incredibly obnoxious during the pre-commercial-free-movie spiel.

Back in the late 90′s when I shared my residence with mice and slugs I lived a mere ten to fifteen minute walk from what is now thanks to Mike a restored, yet modernized, version of the original theatre built in 1938, a classic photo from the theatres past hangs in direct eye sight when you walk inside, a bright red curtain hangs over the one and only screen and it has a balcony. I used to always wonder about that theatre whenever I would walk by it. It was extremely dilapidated and ran shows on a very sporadic basis, but I could tell it was ‘cool old’, history old, because of its signage and character that was still evident through the mess of garbage and scattering of posters.

My gripe, [NOT a spoiler] although I realize this is Rush Hour 3 here and not a movie of cinematic brilliance and nor is that expected of this movie, like any other person on the planet there are things that erk me and get under my skin and one of those things is the destruction or disrespect to basically any countries flag. I was even born on America’s flag day, no I am not American but their rules for proper display and use are very similar to ours. I was raised on a mix of the two due to my years of involvement with Scouts Canada/Girl Guides of Canada.

* Random Tangent*

Although I enjoyed my years in Scouting, even the embarrassing years of it being seriously uncool, I have never agreed with their politics on homosexuals and find their views ancient and quite frankly disgusting. I have also always been in HUGE disagreement with the decision to allow girls into ‘Scouts Canada’. Originally there was three levels one for girls and one for boys and then at the fourth level it goes co-ed. This is how it should have always remained and it still angers me greatly even though I have no involvement anymore that this was allowed and actually became policy in 1998. It is does not seem fair to me that girls have the option to join Brownies and be with all girls or join Beavers and be with boys and girls from the get go. What about the BOYS. It was started with BOYS for BOYS in 1908 the Girl Guides started in 1910. My point, start a separate sect so the boys have the same choices as the girls.

*Tangent End*

A scene in the movie between five and ten minutes in length completely destroys a French flag. I find it odd that a country that has such strict laws in regards to the treatment of its flag would be so quick to idiotically destroy and disrespect one for a scene that was already gravely lacking in humor. As soon as we left the theatre and started sharing opinions on the movie I mentioned my disgust and was actually shocked that they both agreed with me [to the extent we talked about it at that time] because it is not something that comes up in many conversations and Adam also thinks it is silliness and pretty much laughs at me when I freak out over misuse and handling of flags which I have done numerous times over the course of our relationship. For one I was taught that it is to never touch the ground. I can see how something simply made from a piece of cloth could have its significance lost on some and being something that you wouldn’t really think about or care too much about, but tradition that is not wrapped in religion is rare these days and so I respect my flag and the flag of every other nation because if Canada were to ever fall, her flag and all of its symbolism, and history would go with her and I find that rather sad.

If you are interested in the Flag Etiquette for Canada the information is here, for the United States and links to other countries the information is here.

And I don’t even own a scale – Part Two

Published on August 2, 2007 by Corinna Carlson | 0 Comments

I LOVE ARGYLE This photo was taken last July, says my flickr. There was less than two months to go until our wedding, and I was stressed. I would venture a guess that I weighed around 112ish. I know when I went home for my dress fitting almost a month to the day of this photo I was worried that my dress would be to big but I weighed myself at my parents place and found that I wasn’t as skeletor as I thought I was. I was eating like mad around this time as well because I was afraid of my dress literally falling off at the wedding. When I had been measured for it, it was January 2006 and I was carrying some winter weight and did not see it again until the beginning of August when I was stressed to the absolute max and thin like my early 20′s thin, or in a major depression thin.

HoneyMoonThis is September 2006, I remember knowing I was underweight but being pretty happy with my body for 29, the wedding was over my dress did not fall off, it had fit perfectly. I ended up getting really sick when we returned from Mexico and also fell into a seriously bad black hole of depression. Winter came and I packed away the bathing suits and settled into marriage. Even though I was depressed which means I would normally be losing weight due to anxiety, I didn’t have a lot of anxiety I was just horribly depressed and doing absolutely nothing that didn’t involve the couch. I was basically leaving the house once a week for my shrink sessions and that was about it. And before I knew it I weighed 130 pounds.

first time in a bikini this year

This was taken yesterday. To be honest my second time in a bikini this year as I had gone to tan the day before with a girlfriend for a bit, but got better photos yesterday. In June I wrote this post on some of my feelings on my weight and the great weight debate in general and was in a space were I did not feel attractive AT ALL. I started to run and work out on the ball in my apartment, I expressed in the post that I was dreading putting on a bikini this year. Last month I did an interview for Eating Disorder Talk and mentioned I felt I needed to lose another five to ten pounds. Seeing this photo I realize that Adam was right, I was seeing a deluded image in the mirror. I do not in fact need to lose any weight. Yes, I need some toning but I look a lot better than I thought I did. For 30 I’m pretty happy actually. I did manage to sneak in a weighing of myself last week at a friends place and I’m around 125lbs so technically I’m still underweight for my height and age. I’m going to stop complaining about my body now because I’ve likely been driving Adam insane. But your eyes play tricks on you; the camera pressed up into a mirror doesn’t lie. Unless I’m in a state where I am not mentally healthy I don’t really want to look like I did in my early to middle twenties anymore. I would still like to get rid of my millions of chins and have bigger boobs but those are just dreams.

It makes a difference to me

Published on July 31, 2007 by Corinna Carlson | 0 Comments

Back in late 1999 and early 2000 the roommate I was living with was huge on recycling, I at the time did not give a shit about recycling and would only recycle things when she was around and I’d ask if everything was recyclable in a mocking way, even if I already knew because I found it all rather silly. How ignorant I can be.

I can’t remember now when I started to recycle but I do as much as I can and she has become jaded and doesn’t.

recycling day For me, recycling has become a bit of an obsession, mind you a good one. I like to keep the How to Set Out Your Recyclables page handy off of the City of Vancouver website. Yes, I am nerdalicious and I love it. I get extremely pissed off and rant about anything that does not have clear recycling instructions on it, there is no excuse for that in my opinion in today’s day and age. I also think that apartment recycling and recycling from your home should be the same so things we don’t have bins for I recycle anyway because I know the guy that lives across the street in a HOUSE gets to so why oh why can’t I?

Recently Adam and I have added new measures to being people who are good to the Earth. I used to be really bad about leaving the water on when I brushed my teeth. I turn the water off now. Adam used to only use cloth hankies at work, now he uses them at home as well. I still use a tissue I can’t blow my nose into something as many times as a hankie should be good for. I am much more conscious of how long I’m in the shower for. And then one day I was in the kitchen and glanced down at the extension cord that contained, the microwave, the coffee pot, the grill and the toaster oven. I unplugged everything and when Adam got home I told him we were going power friendly we would be unplugging the entire kitchen when not in use and we would also unplug the power bar connected to the computer when the computer was off. We still leave the fan on almost constantly and haven’t gotten into turning off the power bar that runs the t.v stuff yet but I am sure that is coming.

It has been an adjustment but one that makes me feel good about myself when I remember to do all of the new things we are doing. I find it rather fun. Since I started recycling I have found it fun, although I don’t know why I find it ‘fun’ to be exact. Since we have started implementing the changes I have found myself almost sickened at how much power we were draining just out of our tiny kitchen, I can’t believe how much there is to leave unplugged. I still have a bad habit of leaving the t.v with the mute button on when I’m home alone but not watching it, I find it to be comforting, I picked the habit up from my dad, why he leaves his on I don’t know. I’m working on not doing that as well. Some things are easier than others, the t.v is on mute right now and I am not watching it.

…. ok you talked me into it… I’ll go play Guitar Hero Encore Rocks the 80s edition right now then so at least I’m using it.